Post by Deleted on Oct 1, 2023 7:07:45 GMT -5
Dear Jane,
My sister and I have always been incredibly close – we are just two years apart in age and up until a few years ago, we were basically the best of friends.
Things changed a bit when my sister, who is the younger out of the two of us, got a new boyfriend. She stopped spending as much time with me and definitely prioritized her new relationship, which hurt, but I tried to understand.
Then, out of the blue, she suddenly announced she was pregnant, less than a year after she and her now-fiancé got together. I was totally shocked – I was the one who wanted a family and children, while my sister had never even expressed an interest in kids until she discovered she was expecting one.
Although I was surprised about her news, I did my best to be supportive and started to get really excited about the prospect of having a niece who would one day be friends with my future kids.
I shared all of the pregnancy tips, tricks, and advice that I’ve built up over the years with her, and I was by her side for anything and everything that she needed me for – including my niece’s birth a few months ago.
Then came the moment that completely obliterated our relationship. When my sister revealed the name she has given her daughter: Guinevere. Also known as the baby name that I chose for my first-born daughter when I was 12 years old and obsessed with the Robin Hood movies.
It’s always been the name that I’d planned to give my baby girl one day – and my sister knew this.
When I confronted her about it, she claimed that she’d forgotten entirely – and even tried to insist that it’s a name that runs in her boyfriend’s family, which I know is total garbage. I mean, who on earth do you know who is actually named Guinevere in real life? But that’s why I loved the name so much. And now she’s stolen it from me.
When I pointed this out, she accused me of being jealous that she found her soulmate and had kids before I did.
Her denial of the whole thing made me even more furious with her… had she just confessed the truth, I might have been inclined to forgive her, but her gaslighting me and trying to make out like I was the lunatic has just made everything all the more hurtful.
Every time I look at my niece I’m filled with rage, and I’m not sure I will ever be able to forgive my sister for what she’s done. At least not until she realizes how much she’s hurt me.
Please tell me how I can get over this nightmare.From,
Name Shame
www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-12577141/DEAR-JANE-younger-sister-STOLE-baby-mad.html
My sister and I have always been incredibly close – we are just two years apart in age and up until a few years ago, we were basically the best of friends.
Things changed a bit when my sister, who is the younger out of the two of us, got a new boyfriend. She stopped spending as much time with me and definitely prioritized her new relationship, which hurt, but I tried to understand.
Then, out of the blue, she suddenly announced she was pregnant, less than a year after she and her now-fiancé got together. I was totally shocked – I was the one who wanted a family and children, while my sister had never even expressed an interest in kids until she discovered she was expecting one.
Although I was surprised about her news, I did my best to be supportive and started to get really excited about the prospect of having a niece who would one day be friends with my future kids.
I shared all of the pregnancy tips, tricks, and advice that I’ve built up over the years with her, and I was by her side for anything and everything that she needed me for – including my niece’s birth a few months ago.
Then came the moment that completely obliterated our relationship. When my sister revealed the name she has given her daughter: Guinevere. Also known as the baby name that I chose for my first-born daughter when I was 12 years old and obsessed with the Robin Hood movies.
It’s always been the name that I’d planned to give my baby girl one day – and my sister knew this.
When I confronted her about it, she claimed that she’d forgotten entirely – and even tried to insist that it’s a name that runs in her boyfriend’s family, which I know is total garbage. I mean, who on earth do you know who is actually named Guinevere in real life? But that’s why I loved the name so much. And now she’s stolen it from me.
When I pointed this out, she accused me of being jealous that she found her soulmate and had kids before I did.
Her denial of the whole thing made me even more furious with her… had she just confessed the truth, I might have been inclined to forgive her, but her gaslighting me and trying to make out like I was the lunatic has just made everything all the more hurtful.
Every time I look at my niece I’m filled with rage, and I’m not sure I will ever be able to forgive my sister for what she’s done. At least not until she realizes how much she’s hurt me.
Please tell me how I can get over this nightmare.From,
Name Shame
www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-12577141/DEAR-JANE-younger-sister-STOLE-baby-mad.html
