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Post by deyana on Sept 19, 2023 20:23:47 GMT -5
Why more couples are choosing not to live together. Loving separately sounds like a contradiction. When we enter into a committed relationship, the natural progression of the relationship often involves moving in together or getting married and sharing a home. Loving separately doesn't make sense to many people because normally we do not love separately; we love as a couple, together. When two people care deeply for each other, spending as much time together as possible becomes a priority. Is it possible to sustain a relationship as committed as marriage while living separately? Does being committed to someone mean the only route is to live together? An option may be loving separately when living together isn’t working. Sometimes things just don't work out as planned. Living with another person can be difficult and requires compromise as well as sacrifice, open communication, patience, and tolerance. Many marriages and committed relationships end up failing, but before this emotional devastation happens to you, perhaps it is time to consider the alternatives. www.everydayhealth.com/healthy-living/healthy-home/loving-separately-when-living-together-isnt-working/
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Post by deyana on Sept 19, 2023 20:41:42 GMT -5
I think this may not be such a bad idea...
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Post by Deleted on Sept 19, 2023 20:43:59 GMT -5
I think this may not be such a bad idea... Years ago I worked with a lady who was married and her husband lived in another state. Didn't quite get that but seemed to work for them
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Post by deyana on Sept 19, 2023 20:45:46 GMT -5
Well, not sure if long distance relationships are a good idea mind you.
But if the couple are seeing each other just about every day anyway, maybe there is no real reason to shack up?
Could be a win win for many !
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Post by deyana on Sept 19, 2023 20:46:33 GMT -5
Mind you, it might be more cost affective to live at the same house though.
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Post by apple on Sept 19, 2023 20:49:12 GMT -5
Mind you, it might be more cost affective to live at the same house though. For tax purposes it can be a win.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 19, 2023 20:52:22 GMT -5
Mind you, it might be more cost affective to live at the same house though. I would think it would be pricey to have 2 homes to upkeep. I mean i can see periods of time where that might occur. Say someone loses a job and has to relocate to get a job. Maybe you don't want to uproot the current life so the spouse goes to the new place to get an apt for a few years to earn income. That might be a scenario that could come up
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Post by deyana on Sept 19, 2023 21:07:21 GMT -5
It makes you wonder how many couples are just together more because they are trapped in a financial bind than anything else?
How many,(if money was not an issue) would rather have their own place?
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Post by deyana on Sept 19, 2023 21:09:53 GMT -5
And maybe those that are very wealthy (movie stars and such) have marriages that break up so often, because they have options that those without means do not? They don't need to stay together just because financially it makes more sense?
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Post by hank on Sept 19, 2023 21:21:42 GMT -5
Everyone is different but why be a couple if you can’t even live together? I can understand couples not being married but the living apart is a bit much.
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Post by Rusty on Sept 20, 2023 22:13:50 GMT -5
Everyone is different but why be a couple if you can’t even live together? I can understand couples not being married but the living apart is a bit much. Agreed! My cousin who is 73 has been with the same guy since 1982. They have lived together as long as I can recall That's not me. I absolutely HATE living apart from fiancée. Next year things will be different for sure
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Post by Rusty on Sept 20, 2023 22:15:46 GMT -5
Just an fyi for my Facebook friends you're not going to see any big announcements as my lady is quite the private person. My FB profile will tell y'all everything but most friends would hardly notice
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Post by deyana on Sept 20, 2023 22:17:47 GMT -5
Statistically, it is men who have been married but lost their wives, that will want to get married again and asap.
Women, who have lost their partners, not so much...
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Post by Rusty on Sept 21, 2023 21:27:58 GMT -5
Statistically, it is men who have been married but lost their wives, that will want to get married again and asap. Women, who have lost their partners, not so much... Agree 100%. I have 3 women who are just friends ( yes just friends) They are divorced and vow NEVER to get married again. I understand their point.( they got cheated on) As a guy I'm different. I want to be married and next spring it's going to happen.
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Post by deyana on Sept 21, 2023 21:30:25 GMT -5
So it is mostly guys who feel the need to be married or attached in that way.
I wonder why not women so much?
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Post by Springschick on Sept 21, 2023 22:03:58 GMT -5
My Mom was widowed in 2010, just shy of their 50th anniversary. She has no desire to remarry. She does enjoy having dinner companions from time to time, but that is about it.
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Post by Rusty on Sept 23, 2023 19:28:39 GMT -5
My Mom was widowed in 2010, just shy of their 50th anniversary. She has no desire to remarry. She does enjoy having dinner companions from time to time, but that is about it. Back around 2009 my mom was hit on by my DIL's grandfather. She told me to let Gretchen know she wasn't interested
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Post by Deleted on Sept 24, 2023 14:43:15 GMT -5
I have not read any of the replies, so if I insult someone, I'm sorry. Couples that don't live together are not couples. My wife suggested different bedrooms once and it almost cost her the marriage. Lets see if I can say this nice... A lady that visit for special relations is called... Nope I can't say it nice. Sorry.
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Post by Rusty on Sept 24, 2023 18:25:23 GMT -5
I have not read any of the replies, so if I insult someone, I'm sorry. Couples that don't live together are not couples. My wife suggested different bedrooms once and it almost cost her the marriage. Lets see if I can say this nice... A lady that visit for special relations is called... Nope I can't say it nice. Sorry. Never forget how sad my dad was when my mom suggested separate beds. Same room but separate beds. As young and naive as I was I could feel the sadness
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Post by raven on Sept 24, 2023 20:58:51 GMT -5
Statistically, it is men who have been married but lost their wives, that will want to get married again and asap. Women, who have lost their partners, not so much... I know that if anything (God forbid) happened to my husband I am done. I don't want to risk being with someone like my ex again. I've finally chosen a decent man and know exactly how I am supposed to be treated. Plus, I don't think anyone could ever fill my husband's shoes and I'm honestly not willing to let anyone try. I'm good.
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